Why I’ve Been MIA….

(For you non-Americans, that stands for “missing in action.”)

Hey there. I know I’ve been a bit absent of late, and I apologize. Things have been very busy, but also very stressful. I’ve been going through some stuff, and some of it is very challenging emotionally.

First the busy stuff — I’ve been trying to find a place where Mil and I can move in together. We’ve both been trying to find a place, whether in Hawaii or Australia. There are benefits and drawbacks to both places, but the bottom line is that one of us would have to emigrate, and of course that’s always tough. We nearly bought a house together on the Big Island, but the erupting volcano forestalled our plans. (It’s probably a good thing it didn’t erupt AFTER we’d bought some property in the area, but it was still a huge disappointment.)

Most recently, we’d applied for some “affordable housing” on Oahu, right in town. Rather than buying a home we’d be renting an apartment. But the apartment is in a very convenient location, and it’s supposedly built especially for artists. If we get it, Mil could do her art and I could do my writing. There was a lottery and we drew a fairly low number, so we do have a chance. But it’s been a real roller coaster ride trying to qualify. We’ve had criminal background checks done, submitted years of financial statements, and sat for two 2-hour interviews. If we qualify, there will also be an artists’ panel interview.

We were originally turned down for the apartment, but went through an appeals process and are back in the running. I had to quit one of my part-time jobs in order to qualify. The construction of the building has had delays, so the move-in date has been pushed back 3 times now. Every time they push things back, we have to submit new statements to verify employment and financial accounts. It’s pretty grueling, but it’s all we have to hope for at this point.

While this has been going on, I’ve also been dealing with the fact that a close friend has developed early-onset dementia. We were partners for 11 years, and even after we broke up, we remained in close contact (as lesbians tend to do). She’s like family to me. She’s in another state, and she’s been caring for her mother who has full blown dementia. She doesn’t have any family who can care for her, so I’ve been trying, with the help of her friends, to handle things long-distance. Trying to find resources, trying to handle her finances so all her bills are paid, trying to qualify for assistance, trying to battle her deep depression and fear.

When she has moments of lucidness, she cries about not understanding what’s happening to her. But most of the time she’s depressed, or angry, or frustrated. Her world has closed up, she can no longer do the simplest things, and her very personality has changed from a bright, sweet, funny woman to someone with the narrowest vision and no hope. I can’t even begin to tell you how heart-wrenching it all is. It saps my energy and the worry causes insomnia that affects my health. I haven’t written anything new in months.

I’m not complaining, because nothing I’m experiencing can be as awful as what she’s experiencing. But I wanted you all to know why I’ve been less visible and responsive. Recently, I watched the entire season of “Gentleman Jack” and became inspired to start writing again. The writing is slow, but at least it’s something. If you haven’t seen the series, I can’t recommend it highly enough. It’s beautifully affirming for lesbians, but even if you’re not a lesbian I still think you should watch it. It’s incredibly clever and funny, and approaches its subject in an innovative way. The tone of the series is modern and jaunty and not like the usual BBC period drama at all. The theme song is awesome, and the way the characters “break the fourth wall” and send speaking looks to the camera will have you laughing out loud.

So….to summarize, I just wanted you all to know what’s going on with me, and how much I appreciate your patience. I also wanted to end on a hopeful note, because I also binge-watched 4 seasons of SuperGirl in a couple of weeks, and that show is all about hope. πŸ˜€ Where would we be without TV, eh?

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Another treat…well, actually TWO! :)

Hi Spank-fans! Two announcements today, both of which should brighten your day.

The first is that Leandra Summers is making another of her books available for free, this time “Jo and Jane: Lesbian Domestic Discipline Romance,” on Amazon. You can download it for free on January 27th, and be sure to show your appreciation for this generous gesture by writing a review afterwards. Here’s the link for Leandra’s story: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07DB9H6DK.

The second bit of news is that I have managed to (finally) publish another book myself. It’s late, but I’m putting it up anyway, because I started working on it before Xmas and don’t want to wait another year before publishing. πŸ˜›

Anyway, it’s an anthology of some of my Christmas stories, featuring toppy Santa Kris and a few other characters. Three of the stories are ones I’ve previously had up on my site, and one is a brand new story which I wrote especially for this anthology. You can find it on Amazon here (U. S. site, but it’s also up on the U.K., Australia, etc.): “Season’s Heatings (and Other Holiday Goodies).” Needless to say I would very much appreciate a review as well. πŸ™‚

 

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An unexpected treat

Perhaps some of you are familiar with this published author…I have to admit I wasn’t! But Leandra Summers has stepped forward to say she would like to participate in our annual holiday exchange, and that her contribution would be to make one of her novellas available for free download on one day only.

So on Monday, January 7, her story “Emily’s Choice” will be available on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07KXZWZ9B. The best way to thank Leandra for this generous offer is to leave a review on Amazon after reading her story. (I have been told that Amazon doesn’t allow reviews unless one has purchased a minimum amount, so if you are unable to do so, please at least leave her a comment on this post. However authors really benefit by reviews, so if you are able to do so, please write one.)

Mark your calendars, enjoy discovering a new author, and be sure to let Leandra know how much you enjoyed her contribution! (P.S. She does have other works available on Amazon, so look those up if you like what you read. πŸ™‚ )

 

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What happens when brats conspire??

Yes, I know, usually it means Trouble. πŸ˜€Β  But this time, it means a treat! Ellie has written, and Mishi edited, a new Christmas story for our holiday exchange. So check out the link on the Links & Xmas Exchange page, or go directly to Ellie’s blog, Tales of a Rogue: Brat in Business. Be sure to leave a comment and let them know how much you liked their contribution!

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Another lovely gift for us!

Well, the holiday season is still very festive, with another story by Logan Tyler. Many of you are already familiar with her blog, Logan’s Secrets. You can find her story there — From: Ma’am To: Little Bit — or as always, on the Links & Xmas Exchange page. When you visit, be sure to let her know how much you appreciated her contribution!

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Yup, I did it

And it’s still 2018! πŸ™‚ My proof-reader Fizzy (thanks for your sharp eye!) called this Xmas story “a Hallmark movie with whacking”! *LOL* I reckon that’s pretty accurate, but at least it’s done.

I want to thank everyone who is (and will be) participating in this year’s gift exchange, and even more for all of your support throughout the year. You guys rock my world. *hugs*

Happy Holidays to everyone, and wishing you the best in 2019! As they say in Hawaii, Mele Kalikimaka me ka Hau`oli Makahiki Hou!

Whoops, nearly forgot….here’s the story: The Gift. πŸ˜€

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Ash’s gift is under the tree!

Yes, that’s right, Ash is NOT the last person to submit her story this year! πŸ˜€Β  I felt confident I’d be submitting mine before her, but she snuck one past me. I guess avoidance of studying is a great motivator! Heheheh. πŸ˜€

Seriously, though, those of us following Gwen and Aisling’s adventures will be thrilled to have another chapter. Check out the link on the Links & Xmas Exchange page, or go directly to her blog here: Gwen and Aisling – When Lovers Match. And be sure to let her know how much you loved it!

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